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APEX 101 – SKILLS: COMMUNICATION AND NEGOTIATION @ APEX

Lifestyle folks sometimes seem to speak another language. What works in the vanilla world is sometimes demonized in the the lifestyle. Before you know it someone thinks you are disrespectful or predatory when you were just trying to say “hello”. How do you approach people? How do you ask someone to play? How do you effectively negotiate when you don’t have years of experience? Learn some tools to help you navigate the lifestyle language to include: How to approach someone and introduce yourself, avoiding the landmines of negotiation, a working vocabulary of the BDSM alphabet soup, and other effective communication tools.

You will get to see some role played negotiations for some real-life models to help you with the vocabulary to communicate boundaries/limits/wants. You will also get some real-world information on the different ways a negotiation can be structured so you can choose the method most comfortable for you.

The APEX 101 series is an introduction to specific skills. Come learn the basics of these skills. These classes are for beginners, those new to a particular kind of play, or someone wanting a ‘sampling’ of the possibilities and intended to make you comfortable with the general premise of the chosen fetish. Keep your eyes open for the APEX 202 class on your favorite subjects!

The APEX 101 series is designed to be a fun and interactive environment. You will get an overview of the evening, and then you can spend your time learning about the things you are interested in! This is an opportunity to ask questions, see up close how things work and in some cases even try those things!

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OPEN TO ALL APEX MEMBERS

$6.00 for Pay Per Event Members, and members of the Community, FREE for ALL Access Members.

To Learn More about APEX Membership Please visit the website: http://www.arizonapowerexchange.org/membership

YES IS NOT ENOUGH: INFORMED CONSENT IN THE SCENE

Informed consent was coined by the health care industry. Informed consent is the process by which the treating health care provider discloses appropriate information to a competent patient so that the patient may make a voluntary choice to accept or refuse treatment. It originates from the legal and ethical right the patient has to direct what happens to her body and from the ethical duty of the physician to involve the patient in her health care.

In honor of National Consent Month, we will discuss Informed Consent. No ethical person in BDSM wants to violate consent. However, in a culture where definitions are a moving target, and expectations are wildly varied, how do we get beyond yes to meaningful dialogue where such a solid concept as informed consent exists?

What we will discuss:

  • Informed Consent in Health Care and how it directly applies to our culture
  • Consequences-While Malpractice isnt a risk for most of us, our consequences are just as severe
  • How to discover and discuss reasonable risk
  • We will give you examples of some of the unhealthy things we do when discussing our scenes and relationships that we dont even recognize
  • Employing the health care model, you can be in a position to say that youve told your partner everything they need to know, and done everything that you can to make sure everyone has provided informed consent.

NCSF and APEX will be giving away Got Consent? bracelets to everyone who attends!

If there is a subject that you are interested in seeing or teaching, please email Mondays@ArizonaPowerExchange.org.

OPEN TO THE ENTIRE 18+ Community*

In honor of Consent Month, we are opening several classes to the entire 18+ Community in order to bring consent topics to as many people as possible.

$6.00 for Pay Per Event Members, FREE for ALL Access Members.

*Occasionally we will do a class that is open to the entire adult community as a service. Please look for these with the note “Open to our entire 18+ Community”.*

To Learn More about APEX Membership Please visit the website:http://www.arizonapowerexchange.org/membership

APEX 101 – SKILLS: COMMUNICATION AND NEGOTIATION

Lifestyle folks sometimes seem to speak another language. What works in the vanilla world is sometimes demonized in the the lifestyle. Before you know it someone thinks you are disrespectful or predatory when you were just trying to say “hello”. How do you approach people? How do you ask someone to play? How do you effectively negotiate when you don’t have years of experience? Learn some tools to help you navigate the lifestyle language to include: How to approach someone and introduce yourself, avoiding the landmines of negotiation, a working vocabulary of the BDSM alphabet soup, and other effective communication tools.

You will get to see some role played negotiations for some real-life models to help you with the vocabulary to communicate boundaries/limits/wants. You will also get some real-world information on the different ways a negotiation can be structured so you can choose the method most comfortable for you.

The APEX 101 series is an introduction to specific skills. Come learn the basics of these skills. These classes are for beginners, those new to a particular kind of play, or someone wanting a ‘sampling’ of the possibilities and intended to make you comfortable with the general premise of the chosen fetish. Keep your eyes open for the APEX 202 class on your favorite subjects!

The APEX 101 series is designed to be a fun and interactive environment. You will get an overview of the evening, and then you can spend your time learning about the things you are interested in! This is an opportunity to ask questions, see up close how things work and in some cases even try those things!

Copyright 2012: The Arizona Power Exchange

OPEN TO ALL APEX MEMBERS

$6 for Pay Per Event Members, FREE for All Access Members

CSPC Seattle, WA Consent & Negotiation for a Sex Positive World with Sar Surmick

Consent & Negotiation for a Sex Positive World | Foundation for Sex Positive Culture

Consent & Negotiation for a Sex Positive World with Sar Surmick

When: 7PM to 8:30PM
Where: Raw Space
Who: Anyone 18+ with ID
Cost at the door: $15. $10 in advance.
Free for current CSPC members.

Whether you’re brand new to Sex Positive Culture or an old hand, there are two primary skills you need to navigate interacting with others:
1) Consent – Most of us have learned the idea that No means No, but consent in a Sex Positive World goes way beyond that. Come to explore how to move beyond simply giving or accepting a No. Come and learn how to move towards an informed Yes and even an enthusiastic Yes.
2) Negotiation – It’s a simple idea: sit down with someone to come to a mutual understanding about what you want, what they want, and what the boundaries are. And, this simple idea can get difficult when you’re negotiating emotional, complicated, or vulnerable things. Come and get some tips, tricks and tools about how to have a good and effective negotiation with someone whether you’re requesting a new relationship, tonight’s sex, or a first hug.

Join us for this opening discussion on these two very important skills. Then take what you learn out into the larger world (or to the Chill that night) to help us create a more Sex Positive World one interaction at a time.

About the Educator:

Sar Surmick is a Marriage and Family Therapist and Sexuality Educator currently located in Redmond, WA. Sar specializes in working within the Poly, Kink, and Queer communities, seeing couples, individuals, and families. Sar has been speaking on the importance of communication in relationships, understanding the role identity plays in a person’s life, and working from a sex-positive perspective for some time and continues to work on the same. More information about Sar and his practice can be found at: www.significantconnections.com

Contact Sar to RSVP or with Questions at: sar.therapist@gmail.com

This workshop is presented by the Foundation for Sex Positive Culture. Please go to TheFSPC.org for more information.

This event is sponsored by the Center for Sex Positive Culture.